Corner Time dun dun duuun

I got assigned corner time for the first time.

We got home late, from the grocery store, I had a special dinner planned, well not too special just a new recipe that sounded quick and good.

And..... we have a mouse issue. Since it's been so cold they started coming in the house. Let me be clear- this has never happened since I have lived there.

So now before I can cook I have to sanitize and wash all the counters, silverware and utensils, take care of the dogs and get a fire started (it's way cold in the house).  He takes the dogs out, gets some wood and gets the fire going, while I'm washing my butt off and not getting anywhere.  I had a pizza in the freezer so we opt for that but while I'm still washing he is texting my cousin and reading the new magazine we got in the mail instead of talking to me.  I was getting a headache from not eating yet and sorta lost my temper and yelled at him "All you ever do is play on your phone and read and you NEVER pay attention to me!" and as soon as it came out I knew I was in the wrong, said sorry and he was sooo mad. So I turn back around to wash more and he asked in a calm voice if I would please take off my gloves and do ten minutes of corner time.  I whipped around with a look of pure 'why would I do that I said sorry!'.  I didn't want to argue because I knew I was wrong.  I didn't want to do it because I wanted to finish the dishes. But I did it, with out complaint and quietly asked where he wanted me to go(since it was our first experience with this). I got to stand next to the wood stove, and only had to do 7 minutes because I was good.

When he came up to tell me I was done I turned and hugged him and cried.  I was really ashamed of losing my temper and being rude!  He asked me why I had to stand there and I told him as that and being disrespectful and yelling.  The night was so great after that!  We were laughing together in minutes afterward.  This has never happened before!  He will stay mad that I yelled and I will be angry like it was his fault and we would go to bed like that.  We ate together and snuggled in bed and were completely happy with each others company.  It was a little boring but so necessary, and really wiped the slate for us.

I know that it will be boring in the future but I hope to always put such a good face on it, so we can get back to being loving instead of fighting.

Holidays are a time for growing and drama

I don't understand why people, and people that you love have to start dramatic problems, especially during the holidays.  Yesterday I we had, between our two families, 3 different dramatic things going on.  But as he was helping a member of his family over the phone, I had a chance to really be there for him.  He got the person calmed down and really helped them to have a better Thanksgiving, and we were very thankful that we had a good day together.  :D

Yikes! 1st Spanking.

Good morning!  Today it finally warmed up! Last night as he picked me up from work I thought, oh this is weird, the cold is not biting my nose off, and it was only 2 below!!! We had over a week of 30 below temps and this was a very nice surprise!!  The dogs were so ready to play now that their poor lil paws aren't freezing to the ground :P But I was not ready to run around just yet, so we played in the house.  A nice way to start Thanksgiving weekend! I am thankful it warmed up!!! I really can't stress enough how hard it is when it's -30 for that long haha

So last night he put the dogs in the kennel before bed.  I looked at him like are you crazy? They are sleeping with us!  He said they will and asked me to the bed.  He had read most of the pertinent articles on Clint's blog and decided tonight was the night. I almost cried as I was laying down but tried to stay calm because I knew this was for me being completely unruly the other day.  The other day when I thought those rules we made months ago didn't count for anything anymore.  I had pajama pants on and he told me my behaviour that day was unacceptable, no more rude texts, rude comments, pouting and whining.

We spank for fun all the time so I thought this would be a walk in the park.  I wondered why all those girls put their hands back, or kick.  He started out with "potches" as we call them.  Then they got to 1/2 strength.  Okay still good I mean they hurt but not so bad.   Then came 3/4 strength. I'm crying but no tears.  A few more and I reached my hand back.  He just took it gently and held it to his leg also gently.  I can feel my bottom heating up and I'm not kicking but kinda just wiggling around (as if that would help).  Still no tears and he asks me to go get the bath brush. I said you mean a wooden spoon? He said no I mean the brush. No really, the spoon you mean??? Brush. Okay I'll get your brush. 

Now I did a practice swat on myself to see how horrible this brush really was- and IT HURT! lol I was like lets just forget we bought this thing.  He didn't forget I guess.  Those did not feel very nice but still no tears.  When he stopped (after about 20 I think but I was not counting) I had tears in my eyes but I wasn't crying.  I think we need to work on warming up because I did have a little bruise, but it doesn't hurt.  He was really nice about holding me and comforting me, but it was a little disappointing that I didn't get that "release" that other wives talk about. Needless to say, I will not be eager for the next one BUT we are doing a major overhaul of behaviours so I am expecting more anyway.

First Blog!

Hello!


I am excited to join this community of couples that also use domestic discipline in their marriage. We actually decided to start a few months ago, but getting ready for winter had us really busy and we could not "start".  Well while I was recovering from an illness he decided I should do a recap of the house rules, store rules and what I think are fair punishments. We went over them last night and he said I made all fair and necessary rules.

I am still recovering so I am on hold for my "1st spanking" which I earned for being extremely rude, mouthy, and not doing what I was supposed to.  I thought he had forgot about DD and therefore did not take his threat seriously.  It was!! I am really happy he has decided to take this roll of being our HOH seriously and hold me accountable.

I don't really know what else to say for now!  I am not very good with computers so this blog won't be fancy or anything but I will blog about our experiences to help others.  One thing I have noticed is most LDD families have children.  We do not, and plan to keep it that way.  We have two wonderful(ly bad) dogs and two rabbits, a nice little house and a small business that I run while he works.